Social etiquette refers to the rules of conduct in your society. These rules are different based on location. But the basic effort of social etiquette remains the same – you have to be polite to fit into the society, whether you’re in India or any other part of the world.
So let’s talk about politeness.
What Is Being Politeness?
While etiquette is about the rules of conduct in a society, politeness is basically the practical use of this etiquette. When you apply the rules of conduct, display good manners while expressing yourself and consider the thoughts and feelings of others around you, you are being polite.
How To Be Polite?
When you are polite and courteous, display good manners, people automatically respond to you better. For instance, when you say something to a person with a smile, you can expect a smile in return, or at least a good response. People are less inclined to be hostile to someone who’s smiling at them, right?
So the best way you can be polite is with a SMILE!
Another way of showcasing your social etiquette skills is by being gentle and not being too forceful, insistent or argumentative.
I’m not saying you need to be a pushover, but if you speak gently and your body language is not aggressive, you can expect a similar response from the others around you. Having said that, I’d like to add that you need to get a little bit forceful and assume an aggressive body stance every once in a while to stop people running all over you.
What Is Too Polite?
Never be a pushover. Always be mindful of where your politeness can lead you into. Remember the time you spent listening to the ramblings of your friend about her stuck-up boyfriend? What exactly did you do?
If you stopped her, then good for you! Yes, you might have felt you were being rude, or maybe even she might have thought of you as being rude, but the point is you stopped her from wasting your time.
But what about if you did go on listening to your friend? Well, you’re being a pushover. Your friend is taking advantage of your sweet nature to vent her frustrations on you while you waste your time listening to her. You should be there for your friend in her time of need, but not at a position where you’re unnecessarily being taken advantage of.
This is just a preview into the Social Etiquette features we concentrate on. We’ll help you understand how to behave with others around you, and will also guide you to deal with difficult situations.
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